Trust is fundamental to all relationships. When we trust someone, we take a gamble that they’ll prioritize the long-term relationship we’ve built together instead of indulging their immediate desires. Despite this risk of betrayal, trust is worth it as it allows people to work together towards the greater rewards that only cooperation can give.
Accept that you can’t trust yourself to always do the right thing, and make use of the different techniques that help communicate with your future self. If post-its with friendly reminders or intimidating warnings don’t do the trick, consider downloading one of the many apps designed to help control the actions of your untrustworthy future self. There are apps that can urge you to exercise and keep your diet; then there are the very specialized ones that can, for example, prevent you from going on Facebook all the time or from calling certain numbers on your phone during preset periods of time.
Make sure your mind and body are in the necessary state to be open to trust.
If you enter a new situation feeling angry or nervous, you’ve already limited your ability to trust, and if you enter a situation feeling extremely calm, you might end up trusting someone you shouldn't. Therefore, if you want to get a “realistic” view of someone’s trustworthiness, don’t rush into a first meeting with them after an emotional event. Rather, take a moment to calm down. And when the stakes are high, remember to calmly pay close attention.
The Truth About Trust
How it determines success in life, love, learning and more
By: David DeSteno